Ever had the experience of feeling like you aren’t moving, gaining momentum, getting anywhere? Often, the more we push, the more we suffer and sometimes we just push harder – kind of like spinning your tires in two feet of mud. The negative effect of this can be cumulative and lead to all sorts of discomfort in our lives. That is, until we wake up and begin to lovingly and gently notice what we're up to.
In the past, instead of mindfully sitting with this experience in acceptance while providing myself the freedom to allow a more spacious approach to my next step, I have pushed – more times than I care to mention here. I call it “driven behavior” and what I notice is that the more driven and pushy I become, the more I observe that I am not actually going anywhere.
One day, out of the blue, I started thinking about how I needed to pace myself. At a time when I was feeling stuck, working a job that I knew was not going to take me where I truly wanted to be, a tiny lightbulb switched on in...
I am going to be showcasing videos from time to time about different topics while sharing ideas, presenting fodder for thought and exploring the multi-faceted world of healing, wholeness and walking the path to being the very best we can be - who we truly are!
This video was an experiment that came to me one day while contemplating our true nature. We are extraordinary and I simply couldn't get that out of my head until I put this together. I hope you enjoy and will provide your thoughts about this content and other content you would like to see more of.
Working with clients daily who struggle with the endless, negative and unhelpful babbling that the mind often seems to have an abundance of, I am regularly guiding these individuals to engage in light-hearted, positive self-talk while trying out a superpower he or she might not know they possess - to be mentioned later. While exploring strategies for casting away this unhelpful chatter, we will often playfully brainstorm ways of reframing as much of the negative blather as possible and eventually find a way to flip the dissenting, obtrusive thoughts on their backs and kick them out of the door. Sounds simple...until they come back with their jagged, brain eroding teeth.
A courageous and effective first step to knocking these "little buggers" out of the park and out of your head is to simply observe them. Yes, it is really that simple...or is it? Knowing what you are up against is a helpful first step and here are a few common and tenacious thought patterns yo...
The image below is from a page from one of my favorite bloggers on wellness and personal development. Giovanni really knows how to get us excited about making simple changes in our lives like incorporating a meditation practice. He breaks down each of these components in detail and adds quirky, fun ways to inspire us to begin the practice with gusto and find novel ways to keep it going as a lifelong practice.
One thing I know for certain as a therapist and simply as a human being is that gratitude is accessible at any given moment. Whenever faced with complicated situations or feeling the impact of negative emotions, tapping into gratitude is not only an exit strategy to release oneself from that negative "space," it is one pathway to greater freedom and well-being.
So, I take this opportunity to express gratitude. Gratitude for all that my family has taught me, gratitude for all of the experiences life has given me, and gratitude for being in a place where I can be of service to others.